December 7 – Community.
Where have you discovered community, online or otherwise, in 2010? What community would you like to join, create or more deeply connect with in 2011?
(Author: Cali Harris)
I have had mixed results with community. It’s something I want in theory, but in practice my introverted ways usually sabotage my intention to belong. Earlier this year, I temporarily became a member of a local coworking group. For the first time since college I felt connected to a local community instead of an online one. I’ve lived in communities in the grander sense, but rarely have felt part of them—always feeling distinct and not like I belonged.
I felt good about the coworking at first, but over time I came to find it not condusive to my own work needs—I was working from my laptop and the screen real estate felt cramped, and because I was so eager to be part of a community, my work suffered. And then there was the mocking that developed from other members. Nothing serious, but enough that I didn’t feel like devoting any energy. I’m sure it was meant in good fun, but I have a low tolerance for being made fun of, due to having had to put up with nasty forms of it as a child.
I never seem to have much trouble finding community online. This year, my community online seems to be centered around Twitter. I have some qualms about having my major sense of belonging tied to something that is limited to 130 characters at a time, but it does work. And when you work from home alone day in, day out, having some way of feeling like you’re not alone is helpful. Twitter fills that role for me now. In the long run, I would like a “real world” community to belong to—something Rockwellian, only full of artists and creatives maybe. John Joseph Adams and I have talked several times about his notion of Geektopia—a community populated entirely by geeks who relocate to create a community of their own. If such a place existed—I would seriously consider moving there. We’ve been eyeballing the parts of the country where you can get free land. Problem is, building an entire town from scratch costs millions. So until we get some millionaire backing the idea, it will remain a pipe dream. But it’s one that I would love to see become a reality. Some day.
Until then, the internet is my community, for better and worse.
The prompt for the 8th is about what makes me beautiful and different and I just don’t feel like answering that one, so I’m going to skip it. I also skipped one about “what did you create?” because it would be silly for me to list all that.


















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Hi, Jeremiah! Sure makes me bummed to hear that you were made fun of at the coworking space. :( I know that *I* miss your humor, insight and energy when you and Paul first started working there. But, when a community isn’t comfortable, it isn’t comfortable. I totally get that.
As I’ve read posts in response to the community prompt, a whole lot of people have talked about the community(ies) they’ve immersed themselves in online (including Twitter). And there’s a lot of talk around what that means…similar to your reflections above, people wonder how–and if–online communities are fully “community,” since the face-to-face element is missing. (Or, like you’ve highlighted, it’s limited to 140 char.) I would say “Yes — absolutely!” But then, I have a fairly fluid idea about what community can mean. I think precisely because the social web has emerged, the definition of community must be broad enough to include digital community.
Anyhow. :) I enjoyed reading this. Muchly. You’re a great writer.
Hi Cali! No big deal. I didn’t fit in there, but I’m used to not fitting in around larger groups of people. I’m an odd person.
I can definitely agree with you regarding how our definitions of community are changing. They’re definitely communities, but they do not satisfy the primate need to be around other primates for the most part.
Thank you for the compliment re: my writing. That means a lot to me.
You sound like me, except I don’t feel very comfortable in online communities either. I even feel a little squirmy leaving comments on people’s blogs, including yours, although your blog has become one of my favorites.
Rob, I’m honored, thank you. My energy to socialize both online and off comes and goes. Winter is the worst.